Oh, HOLY SHITCAKES…
What, I was the only one who shouted “exactly!” at the screen when Mrs Tran said that?
That’s part of the communications disconnect I’ve been hammering away on. Because Sam is thinking that they’re brothers, and brothers don’t do that. But Dean’s mindset isn’t brother, no matter what he calls it. It’s PARENT.
John went to hell for Dean. Dean went to hell for Sam. Sam isn’t a parent, he can’t understand that level of love (and he shouldn’t). But because of that, he can’t understand how to tell Dean “it’s okay, I’m grown up now, you have to let go” in the way most teenagers learn how to deal with their parents - and Dean has no experience of disengaging from his own father, who held onto him even after death…. (and so did Bobby, for that matter).
I see people ragging on Dean for not realizing this and starting to treat Sam like his brother instead of his kid.
And I just need to say, that’s not gonna happen. You don’t just STOP being a parent. Dean raised that boy. He’ll always be Sam’s parent. Even if that isn’t what Sam wants. You can’t change that.
They need to come to the realization that the familial love they feel for each other is inherently different. And then figure out how to go about things from there.
ALL OF THIS, YES.
Ever since that episode in which Dean tells that cop lady that he made it his job to look out for Sam when Dean was only 4 fucking years old, I’ve felt like Dean is Sam’s actual dad. Throughout all the flashbacks of little Dean and little Sam, Dean is obviously the one raising Sam, not John. Dean is the one who is there for Sam no matter what. Always.
What y’all just made me realize is that Sam doesn’t get it. He doesn’t realize Dean’s been his dad ever since Dean carried him out of their burning house a million years ago. Yeah, they’re brothers and best friends too, but Dean is definitely Sam’s parent. Maybe one day Sam will get it. Maybe he’ll understand how Dean feels like looking out for him is his one job and that, as a parent, that means doing whatever is necessary to keep him safe.
And maybe, just maybe, he’ll realize everything Dean has ever done has been for him and if he ever calls Dean selfish again I will climb up on a chair and punch that adorable giant moose.